{"id":372,"date":"2021-04-24T13:56:43","date_gmt":"2021-04-24T13:56:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.jsemtuprotebe.cz\/?p=372"},"modified":"2021-05-24T09:27:47","modified_gmt":"2021-05-24T09:27:47","slug":"hranice-co-to-je","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.jsemtuprotebe.cz\/index.php\/2021\/04\/24\/hranice-co-to-je\/","title":{"rendered":"Syndrom mizej\u00edc\u00edho dvoj\u010dete: Hranice? Co to je?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Pokud jsem p\u0159e\u017eiv\u0161\u00ed dvoj\u010de, v\u011bt\u0161inou nev\u00edm, co to hranice jsou anebo je pro m\u011b extr\u00e9mn\u011b obt\u00ed\u017en\u00e9 si je v&nbsp;partnersk\u00e9m vztahu vymezit. V\u011bt\u0161inou partnerovi v\u017edy vyhov\u00edm, i kdy\u017e je to na \u00fakor sebe. A kdy\u017e mi partner vymez\u00ed hranici, \u0161patn\u011b to nesu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Pro\u010d?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div id=\"syndrom-mizejiciho-dvojcete-hranice\" class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\"><figure class=\"alignright size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.jsemtuprotebe.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/C59365F8-62ED-453E-8E42-40CA01F9E01A-1024x1024.jpeg\" alt=\"syndrom mizej\u00edc\u00edho dvoj\u010dete a hranice ve vztaz\u00edch\" class=\"wp-image-694\" width=\"256\" height=\"256\" title=\"Syndrom mizej\u00edc\u00edho dvoj\u010dete\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.jsemtuprotebe.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/C59365F8-62ED-453E-8E42-40CA01F9E01A-1024x1024.jpeg 1024w, https:\/\/www.jsemtuprotebe.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/C59365F8-62ED-453E-8E42-40CA01F9E01A-300x300.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/www.jsemtuprotebe.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/C59365F8-62ED-453E-8E42-40CA01F9E01A-150x150.jpeg 150w, https:\/\/www.jsemtuprotebe.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/C59365F8-62ED-453E-8E42-40CA01F9E01A-768x768.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/www.jsemtuprotebe.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/C59365F8-62ED-453E-8E42-40CA01F9E01A-1536x1536.jpeg 1536w, https:\/\/www.jsemtuprotebe.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/C59365F8-62ED-453E-8E42-40CA01F9E01A-100x100.jpeg 100w, https:\/\/www.jsemtuprotebe.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/C59365F8-62ED-453E-8E42-40CA01F9E01A.jpeg 1600w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 256px) 100vw, 256px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Proto\u017ee mezi V\u00e1mi a Va\u0161\u00edm dvoj\u010detem \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e1 hranice v&nbsp;d\u011bloze nebyla. Byli jste jeden celek. P\u0159e\u017eiv\u0161\u00ed dvoj\u010de si nese trauma z&nbsp;prenat\u00e1ln\u00edho obdob\u00ed. \u010c\u00e1st jeho psychiky se tedy v&nbsp;tomto obdob\u00ed zasekne. Je pro n\u011bj proto p\u0159irozen\u00e9 se napojovat na druh\u00e9 dvoj\u010de, pozd\u011bji v&nbsp;\u017eivot\u011b na druh\u00e9 lidi. Tou\u017e\u00ed po tomto napojen\u00ed. Um\u00ed vn\u00edmat zcela a v\u00edc ne\u017e na 100&nbsp;%. Tato schopnost je vynikaj\u00edc\u00ed nap\u0159\u00edklad, kdy\u017e chcete n\u011bkomu pomoci. Ale n\u011bkdy V\u00e1s to m\u016f\u017ee i vysilovat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Pro\u010d je t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 si vymezit hranice?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Z&nbsp;d\u011blohy m\u00e1te zku\u0161enost, \u017ee <strong>kdy\u017e se Va\u0161e hranice vymezovala, a roz\u0161i\u0159oval se V\u00e1\u0161 prostor, Va\u0161e dvoj\u010d\u00e1tko zem\u0159elo<\/strong>. Osobn\u011b to vn\u00edm\u00e1m jako nespravedlivost, \u017ee moje dvoj\u010d\u00e1tko muselo zem\u0159\u00edt, ale p\u0159\u00edroda u\u017e to tak za\u0159\u00eddila. Je mo\u017en\u00e9 se na to pod\u00edvat i tak, \u017ee <strong>oba byste tam nep\u0159e\u017eili<\/strong>. Va\u0161e dvojce se ob\u011btovalo, aby Vy jste mohli \u017e\u00edt. Abyste m\u011bli dostatek prostoru a v\u00fd\u017eivy. A v&nbsp;d\u016fsledku toho:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>proto\u017ee jste mu zabrali prostor a Va\u0161e dvoj\u010de zem\u0159elo, m\u016f\u017eete m\u00edt obrovsky zahlcuj\u00edc\u00ed strach vymezit se v\u016f\u010di partnerovi a pro\u017e\u00edvat to intenzivn\u011b i v t\u011ble;<\/li><li>proto\u017ee jste mu sebrali v\u00fd\u017eivu, m\u016f\u017eete b\u00fdt s dvoj\u010detem loaj\u00e1ln\u00ed a hladov\u011bt a p\u0159ed lidmi se styd\u011bt si vz\u00edt j\u00eddlo.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>\u0158e\u0161en\u00ed?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>V\u00e1\u0161 partner nebo kdokoliv jin\u00fd nen\u00ed Va\u0161e dvoj\u010de<\/strong> <strong>a kdy\u017e mu \u0159eknete, \u017ee se V\u00e1m n\u011bco nel\u00edb\u00ed, \u017ee u\u017e je n\u011b\u010deho moc a \u017ee mu nevyhov\u00edte, neopust\u00ed V\u00e1s, neubl\u00ed\u017e\u00edte mu a nezem\u0159e<\/strong> (pokud by se tak stalo, polo\u017ete si ot\u00e1zku, zda chcete b\u00fdt s&nbsp;n\u011bk\u00fdm, kdo V\u00e1s nerespektuje nebo citov\u011b vyd\u00edr\u00e1?).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A naopak, pokud si hranici nevymez\u00edte a ml\u010d\u00edte, ubli\u017eujete sami sob\u011b a to, \u017ee se Va\u0161e dvoj\u010d\u00e1tko ob\u011btovalo, abyste m\u011bli prostor a v\u00fd\u017eivu a mohli \u017e\u00edt, p\u0159i\u0161lo vnive\u010d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A proto\u017ee nev\u00edte, kde ta hranice je, <strong>TESTUJTE JI a D\u00c1VEJTE SI JI I SAMI.<\/strong> Doc\u00edl\u00edte toho, \u017ee si vymez\u00edte hranici d\u0159\u00edv, ne\u017e ji druz\u00ed vymez\u00ed V\u00e1m, to by V\u00e1s p\u0159ece mohlo zranit. Nap\u0159.: <em>Je pro tebe v po\u0159\u00e1dku, kdy\u017e Ti o tom je\u0161t\u011b n\u011bco \u0159eknu?<\/em> <em>Nel\u00edb\u00ed se mi, \u017ee\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kdy\u017e Vy si budete vymezovat hranice, budete \u0159\u00edkat i p\u0159edem, co se V\u00e1m nel\u00edb\u00ed, budete <strong>pro ostatn\u00ed \u010diteln\u00ed a p\u0159ejdete z&nbsp;role ob\u011bti do role tv\u016frce<\/strong>. Budete si vztahy vytv\u00e1\u0159et a bude tak doch\u00e1zet k m\u00e9n\u011b konflikt\u016fm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ze za\u010d\u00e1tku u toho m\u016f\u017eete m\u00edt pocit viny kv\u016fli Va\u0161\u00ed zku\u0161enosti z d\u011blohy. Ale dovolte si to! <strong>V\u0161ichni m\u00e1me pr\u00e1vo na sv\u016fj prostor.<\/strong> A uv\u011bdomte si, \u017ee Va\u0161e dvoj\u010de zem\u0159elo, aby Vy jste m\u011bli prostor, Vy jste mohli \u017e\u00edt. <strong>A pokud V\u00e1\u0161 partner za to stoj\u00ed, r\u00e1d V\u00e1m vyjde vst\u0159\u00edc a bude se sna\u017eit nal\u00e9zt kompromis mezi jeho a Va\u0161imi pot\u0159ebami.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.jsemtuprotebe.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/cropped-Vintage_08-03-2021_22h59m44s-scaled-3.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"256\" height=\"256\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Pokud jsem p\u0159e\u017eiv\u0161\u00ed dvoj\u010de, v\u011bt\u0161inou nev\u00edm, co to hranice jsou anebo je pro m\u011b extr\u00e9mn\u011b obt\u00ed\u017en\u00e9 si je v&nbsp;partnersk\u00e9m vztahu vymezit. V\u011bt\u0161inou partnerovi v\u017edy vyhov\u00edm, i kdy\u017e je to na \u00fakor sebe. A kdy\u017e mi partner vymez\u00ed hranici, \u0161patn\u011b to nesu. Pro\u010d? Proto\u017ee mezi V\u00e1mi a Va\u0161\u00edm dvoj\u010detem \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e1 hranice v&nbsp;d\u011bloze nebyla. Byli jste jeden &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.jsemtuprotebe.cz\/index.php\/2021\/04\/24\/hranice-co-to-je\/\" class=\"more-link\">Pokra\u010dovat ve \u010dten\u00ed<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8222;Syndrom mizej\u00edc\u00edho dvoj\u010dete: Hranice? 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